I, For One, Welcome Our New ‘Different Thinker’ Overlords…

Carrie Grant (Ed: Really..?) is a modern martyr, people, so listen up when she opines!

We have four children with additional needs: our eldest, Olivia, 20, has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and dyspraxia and is studying drama at university; Talia, 13, has Asperger’s and dyscalculia; Imogen, 8, has autism including Tourette’s; while our adopted son, who is five years old, has attachment difficulties.

I can only wonder why they didn’t name the son too. Perhaps he has some bog-standard name like ‘Ben’ or ‘John’, to go with his bog-standard issues?

We didn’t realise they had issues until they went to nursery. Imogen loved to crawl into small spaces and squeeze faces, Talia wouldn’t eat foods if they had touched each other, Olivia walked and wrote backwards and my son would break things and not join in sitting down.

Don’t all children have these fads & peculiarities? Aren’t they dealt with by parents in the course of bringing up children all the time?

OK, mainly by those parents refusing to tolerate them and insisting on not allowing the kids to just do as they please, so I can see why Carrie may find that rather challenging.

At home, getting ready for school is the loudest and most stressful two hours of the day. The children are sometimes depressed, often troubled, melting down or needing to talk things through and always highly anxious about the day ahead.

Both my husband and I have to be hypervigilant. Gone are our old parenting techniques of strong discipline and a one size fits all approach. Each child is treated according to their needs to bring about the best outcomes for them and for those around them.

You mean they run rings around you and your husband and rule the roost?

Well, I suppose I should have some sympathy, but it appears you are simply lying on the bed you made. Aren’t you?

Even with a great SEN coordinator, I have had to learn to fight, trying to explain invisible disability to every member of staff who comes into contact with my children.

All our girls have sensory challenges, so brightly lit, noisy, cluttered classrooms are a real challenge for them. Olivia’s attention will often drift, she fidgets constantly and also struggles with co-ordination. Talia is very compliant but won’t say if she doesn’t understand something. She is very anxious and needs someone in school to help her make sense of what may be going on around her. Imogen needs help and encouragement to focus and can have challenging behaviour. Her helpers need to understand and discern how and when she is struggling before a meltdown occurs. Our son needs to be handled very carefully when it comes to discipline. His background has led to him feeling acute shame, so teaching staff have to be aware of this while still maintaining boundaries.

My god, I bet staff fight to get into this school for the sheer pleasure of having to deal with your little darlings, eh?

The UK has come such a long way with understanding diversity but “different thinkers” are still yet to be heard or understood.

Because schools are sausage factories, geared to turning out large numbers of uniform results, not catering for the many needs of every special snowflake with a pushy over-protective mother.

Until everyone understands the invisible impairments our children have, the fight goes on. I am not alone, as Ofsted’s new report on councils’ progress so far on SEN shows.

I hope the extra funding will ensure councils fully implement one of the most positive aspects of the government’s reforms – the requirement that children and parents must be involved in decisions about how best to meet special needs. This is important because those with neurological conditions like my children until now have not always had their opinions listened to.

Really..?

Or do you mean ‘…their every whim and desire catered to, as at home’..?

Imogen’s teacher this year has had no training in autism and had to research this herself. We hope the new legislation will lead to all schools and teachers having proper training. So far, the response from many schools and councils has been positive. What’s needed now is a change in schools’ attitudes to SEN to a culture which understands and celebrates those with different thought patterns and an appreciation that our children are not a burden but an asset.

Yes, I’m sure your children are an asset to someone. I’m just not entirely sure who…

23 comments for “I, For One, Welcome Our New ‘Different Thinker’ Overlords…

  1. Ed P
    December 20, 2014 at 11:37 am

    The old adage, “Spare the rod and spoil the child” has never seemed so appropriate as for today’s dysfunctional parents and their ghastly undisciplined offspring. “Just say no” is another. Of course, we wouldn’t wish to stifle the little darlings’ free expression ‘cos it’s their ooman rites, innit?

    • December 23, 2014 at 7:40 am

      As can be seen in any supermarket or high street. Christ, if I’d behaved like that, I think my parents would have disowned me!

  2. mikebravo
    December 20, 2014 at 12:30 pm

    “understands and celebrates those with different thought patterns” I love it!
    All of my wife’s friends and all of my family have children who have never heard the word no. Funny, but they don’t mess me around. I wonder why.
    I’m glad that my kids are grown up as I don’t think that I could bear to mix with today’s little darlings and their soppy, wet parents.

  3. Hereward unbowed.
    December 20, 2014 at 1:35 pm

    Britain gone soft in the head.

    Cameron, surrendered to the Cultural Marxist shitheads – or is he one himself?

    We went to a great school but my God was it a tough place and you had to fight to survive, in sport and in a competitive classroom, having said that, we looked after each other and the school and teachers always came first.
    If you were disciplined for some serious stuff and or, even sent home, then it was also your parents you had to answer to and it was not very pretty either.
    These days, a kid is slightly admonished at school and the parents are straight up to school threatening violence to the teaching staff, “my little Johnny, Mohammed, Esme, Sloane, Paris – is such a good boy/girl at home”.

    Cultural Marxism and Frankfurt School again, where discipline is gone, all morals; sont alles disparu / now totally bankrupt. And relativism “rools” where all children “are victims!” and parents have been indoctrinated to prefer those rights of their OWN child to trump the school’s and therefore the rest of the school’s charges barring none and nothing.

    Thus that thing we knew as Society – is dead for there is no community any longer only cities where units live near each other and the veneer of civilization which keeps them from killing each other is WEARING thin, a skin measured in depth of atoms. Yup, but that’s what they want – LiblavCON are part of the problem not the solution – holy Lord on a bike, what did Cameron do to the only bloke who was making any sense – when he sacked Michael Gove?

    Hieronymus Bosch foresaw it and Britain is painting it.

  4. Furor Teutonicus
    December 20, 2014 at 1:55 pm

    XX our eldest, Olivia, 20, has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and dyspraxia and is studying drama at university; Talia, 13, has Asperger’s and dyscalculia; Imogen, 8, has autism including Tourette’s; while our adopted son, who is five years old, has attachment difficulties.XX

    A good fucking slapped arse cures ALL those in seconds, WITHOUT medication!

    And if these arseholes are constantly producing spasi bastards, why are the still allowed to breed?

  5. December 20, 2014 at 3:23 pm

    My children have ‘special needs’: your children are ‘difficult’: her children should be locked up.

    • December 23, 2014 at 7:40 am

      🙂

  6. The Jannie
    December 20, 2014 at 5:15 pm

    In the school I worked in most recently the SEN – sorry, it’s “inclusion” this week – department was the biggest and most expensive in the place.

    • December 23, 2014 at 7:41 am

      When my mother was a school governor, their’s was called ‘The Base’. Some bright spark decided to call it ‘The Star Base’ because they were all special in their own way…

      Hey, where’s the ‘vomit’ Smilie?

  7. john in cheshire
    December 20, 2014 at 6:17 pm

    The mother sounds like a typical socialist and school headmasters should be required to expel their children at the first signs of such behaviour from the parents.

  8. John
    December 20, 2014 at 6:59 pm

    Rather than sending an autistic child to a mainstream school and expecting every teacher, child and dinner lady to be trained to orbit around them, surely it would be preferable to put this child into a specialist school where the teachers are not only trained, but experienced with dealing with complex issues like autism, and where the other kids won’t have thier schooling interrupted, and as importantly won’t take the piss.

    But this is the Guardian – the real world is elsewhere isn’t it.

    • December 23, 2014 at 7:42 am

      Yes indeed. The idea of ‘inclusion’ is a lot of the issue.

  9. Cascadian
    December 20, 2014 at 7:34 pm

    Olivia, 20, has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and dyspraxia and is studying drama at university…………HaHaaaHaaaaa.

    Olivia is the living, breathing example of what edjoocation, edjooKashun, edkoojation has achieved, the bright new world of socialist teachers training colleges and servile parents. One can well imagine Olivia the drama queen and her dysfunctional family being a drain forever on the taxpayer.

    Furor T has the cure,sensible parents applied it occasionally not too brutally, but it is too late now for the permanent victim class, soon to be permanent welfare class.

    • Brightside Bob
      December 21, 2014 at 5:45 pm

      “Olivia, 20, has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and dyspraxia and is studying drama at university…………”

      I thought the primary (only?) requirements in acting were:
      i) Remember your lines
      ii) Don’t bump into the furniture,etc.

      Er, good luck with that then… 😕

  10. Kath Gillon
    December 20, 2014 at 8:53 pm

    I was a special needs support worker in mainstream education classes for over 15 years.
    I am dyslexic myself and have 2 dyspraxic sons, my daughter is “Normal”.
    I have never yet met a teacher who does not have special needs education training, it’s standard, so one asks oneself what sort of school Carrie and David send their children to.
    Given their money I would guess private education.
    She is clearly an over bearing over protective mother, my children were always encouraged to do everything the same way as every other child in their class because from personal experience it is the best way for them to progress without a huge chip on their shoulder and to have any chance of a “Normal” life.
    Ms Grant clearly thinks her kids are better than all the others and that she is far better versed in education than her children’s teachers.
    Silly cow.

    • Ed P
      December 21, 2014 at 1:05 am

      I can’t agree with your last words, as silly insults add nothing, but otherwise that’s a heartfelt and revealing expression of deep feelings and I thank you for sharing them.

  11. December 21, 2014 at 1:17 am

    Pick me, pick me. My special needs are bigger than her special needs.

  12. Voice of Reason
    December 21, 2014 at 1:20 am

    What happens to all of these special accommodations if and when these children get a job?

    • Mudplugger
      December 21, 2014 at 9:03 am

      As they’re ‘special’, they’re only ever likely to get a ‘special’ job.

      First an internship via one of mummy or daddy’s chattering contacts, then become a special advisor, find a safe seat, maybe even become prime minister eventually – it seems to be working that way for ‘Special Ed’.

  13. Twenty_Rothmans
    December 21, 2014 at 9:30 pm

    “We have four children with additional needs: our eldest, Olivia, 20, has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and dyspraxia and is studying drama at university”
    Do you want fries with that?
    “Talia, 13, has Asperger’s and dyscalculia”
    Unhappy meal, £3.15, your change from £10 is £7,306,124.06, Sir. I have arranged the notes with their serial numbers all facing the same way.
    “Imogen, 8, has autism including Tourette’s”
    Maybe she says ‘Twat’ to you all the time because that’s what she means.
    “while our adopted son, who is five years old, has attachment difficulties.”
    I’d suspect not remembering his name won’t help.

    • December 22, 2014 at 2:43 pm

      “I’d suspect not remembering his name won’t help.”

      I will treasure that particular comment for a long, long time.

      • December 23, 2014 at 7:43 am

        🙂

        • Twenty_Rothmans
          December 23, 2014 at 9:19 pm

          Delighted to have been of service.

          I suspect he’s called ‘Wayne’ or ‘Tyrone’ and it doesn’t go that well with Olivia/Talia/Imogen.

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