Sex, wonderful thing that it is tends to cause massive problems for any politician minded to step into the minefield that surrounds how we go about it, with who where and when. When it comes to schoolgirls though you’d better be ready to take it on the chin if you decide that it would be good for schools to teach them to say no.
Nadine Dorries, Conservative MP for Mid Bedfordshire, said all schoolgirls should be given lessons in “how to say no” as part of a new-style sex education curriculum.
Speaking in the Commons, she insisted society was “saturated in sex”, with pupils currently being shown how to put condoms on bananas and self-diagnose diseases but not to reject sexual advances altogether.
The early sexualisation of girls was being fuelled by television references to sex, newsagents stocking pornographic magazines and high street stores that sell provocative items such as padded bikinis for seven-year-olds, she added.
On Wednesday, she presented a Ten-Minute Rule Bill in the Commons calling for schools to give girls aged 13 to 16 extra sex education, including the benefits of abstinence.
MPs narrowly voted to allow to Mrs Dorries to bring her Bill forward, although it is unlikely to become law without Government support.
Anyone spot the major flaw here? You know the part separate from self gratification that usually requires another person involved? In the case of heterosexual sexual relations that would be the male, in other words Nadine Dorries is only dealing with half the problem in that getting pregnant which is what I think she’s aiming at takes two.
Now I’m all for kids being kids and not young adults as some would have them be, I also don’t think it’s a good idea that they should be sexualised by their parents, but that’s something that needs to be dealt with by parents and not schools. Nor do I think that any message in school about the joy of abstinence will sit well unless there’s a seed change in attitudes in society. It’s all very well telling a bunch of teenage hormone driven adolescent females to keep their legs crossed when the male part is being ignored and they are getting very different messages from advertisers in various different media.
If we want to change the pattern of sexual activity in the country then we have to change the way people think, believe and act. At the moment though the arbiters of guilt morality are the church and they are either ineffective, ignored or up to their necks in sexual abuse and immorality anyway. Oh not all of them to be sure, but certainly enough to keep the headlines going at least a couple of times a month. Nor would I recommend much the current favourite to replace it in Islam, yes they might be big on family, but the abuse of women and kids runs quite deep there too.
This is one area in which the government is powerless to do anything about unless it goes extremely draconian on us and tempted as they might be at times I don’t think they’d survive such an attempt, at least not at the minute anyway. The sort of change Dorries et al want to happen has to come from a change in the way society thinks and respects itself, not from legislation.
No I don’t know what will work, I just know this won’t.